Friday, October 7, 2016

Friday Coffee?

“I think everybody has ups and downs in their lives. We learn from the biggest disappointments, right? You learn how to be humble to yourself and to be humble to others.” ~ Carolina Kostner

You know, lately, I have been feeling very strange. Strange in the sense that one moment I’m up, flying high, feeling ecstatic and grateful. While the next moment, I am down!!

But every time I feel down I just remember my goals and plans, it works with me so fast, it's my cigarettes of motivation, what keeps me alive or what makes me jump from the bed every morning. 

Yup, it's motivation. 

Every time I remember this word or even say it, I feel the positive vibes around. But, what is motivation as a process or as a definition?

A motive is an impulse that causes a person to act.

Motivation is an internal process that makes a person move toward a goal. Motivation, like intelligence, can’t be directly observed. Instead, motivation can only be inferred by noting a person’s behavior.

Researchers have proposed theories that try to explain human motivation. These theories include drive reduction theories and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs theory. ""

In 2010, I had my very first English conversation with a stranger, it lasted 5 seconds, I was out of words not only in English, Arabic as well. Since then, I was thinking so deeply why I have to be like this, should I blame that fact that I grow up in Romania, learning Arabic, Romanian and some French? or to blame the very poor English education in Jordan?

Nop, I blamed myself, and this was my internal motivation to act.

This is how motivation sounds like, but have you ever wondered how Motivation works? 

We move toward perceived pleasure and away from perceived pain.
If we say we want to do something but don't, it's not necessarily because we are not motivated.

More likely, it's because we have the belief that doing it will somehow be more painful than not doing it. 

But when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, we take action and change take place almost instantly.

He who turns himself into a beast gets rid of the pain of being a man.

Till next time...