Monday, September 21, 2015

Can you Live without Values?

Goodness without knowledge is weak; knowledge without goodness is dangerous. We have to build a better man before we can build a better society. All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good people do nothing. Our purpose is not to make a living but a life--a worthy, well-rounded, useful life. Morality is not a subject; it is a life put to the test in dozens of moments.

-Paul Tillich -

Before you answer this question, you need to know what, in general, values are.

Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live your life.

They "should" determine your life goal, life purpose, priorities, and, deep down, they're probably the measures you use to tell if your life is turning out the way you want it to.

When the things that you do and the way you behave match your values, life is usually good – you're satisfied and content. But when these don't align with your personal values, that's when things feel... wrong. This can be a real source of unhappiness.

You see, there are so many things that hinder us from achieving our goals. We all cling on to bad habits, deconstructive behavior, and limiting beliefs or values. But the worst is when you don't figure out what is your values or beliefs.

In 2006, I was fighting this battle, day, and night. I tried to give up purposely on my values and beliefs because of the unsatisfied feeling about my religion. And I have the balls to say that, but I figured out that I'm the one who didn't understand well what was my values and beliefs.

Regardless of what you believe in, God, karma, destiny or anything, try not to change them unless you proof to yourself that your values were wrong. Because many people, unfortunately, they are stuck in the shadow of fake happiness, they feel good, for some time, but deep inside they are scared, lonely, looking for anything to make them feel happy even if it is wrong, bad or disrespectful, looking for hope they've already lost and if you will ask them about a very short term plan like one year, they will not answer because they don't know! They just don't.

It is important to carefully consider your values for several reasons:

They could guide your life minute by minute towards noble goals, rather than your life being controlled by self-serving motives, customs, accidental occurrences, bad habits, impulses, or emotions. You have to know where you are going before you can get there.

Values and beliefs can not only guide but inspire and motivate you, giving you energy and a zest for living and for doing something meaningful.

Professed but unused values are worthless or worse--phony goodness and rationalizations for not changing. We must be honest with ourselves, recognizing the difference between pretended (verbalized) values and operational (acted on) values.

Of course, no one lives up to all their ideals, but values that only make us look or feel good (including being religious) and do not help us act more morally must be recognized as self-serving hypocrisy.

Thus, self-help is not just for overcoming problems; it also involves learning to become what you truly value, achieving your greatest potential. That is why your values and strengths should be considered along with your problems.

And finally, I don't write to impress anyone on this planet! I hope you have a clear idea about your values in life because it's what represents YOU!

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